Wednesday 7 November 2012

Slow Movement Life Style - A new approach to enjoy life!

I was fascinated to read a new approach to enjoy life at a leisurely pace but achieve our goals effectively. Thought of sharing.

To enjoy more in life perhaps we need to do less, do it slowly & do it well. I was surprised to see many people in the world are already moving towards "Slow Movement Life Style". Strangely the current software practice which I am following "Agile technology" is based on this principle!

The following article I am sharing hoping that this may help some of us who have felt like slowing down!!

The 10 Essential Rules for Slowing Down and Enjoying Life More

Post written by Leo Babauta.

It’s an irony of our modern lives that while technology is continually invented that saves us time, we use that time to do more and more things, and so our lives are more fast-paced and hectic than ever.
Life moves at such a fast pace that it seems to pass us by before we can really enjoy it.
However, it doesn’t have to be this way. Let’s rebel against a hectic lifestyle and slow down to enjoy life.
A slower-paced life means making time to enjoy your mornings, instead of rushing off to work in a frenzy. It means taking time to enjoy whatever you’re doing, to appreciate the outdoors, to actually focus on whoever you’re talking to or spending time with — instead of always being connected to a Blackberry or iPhone or laptop, instead of always thinking about work tasks and emails. It means single-tasking rather than switching between a multitude of tasks and focusing on none of them.
Slowing down is a conscious choice, and not always an easy one, but it leads to a greater appreciation for life and a greater level of happiness.
Here’s how to do it.

1. Do less. It’s hard to slow down when you are trying to do a million things. Instead, make the conscious choice to do less. Focus on what’s really important, what really needs to be done, and let go of the rest. Put space between tasks and appointments, so you can move through your days at a more leisurely pace. Read more.

2. Be present. It’s not enough to just slow down — you need to actually be mindful of whatever you’re doing at the moment. That means, when you find yourself thinking about something you need to do, or something that’s already happened, or something that might happen … gently bring yourself back to the present moment. Focus on what’s going on right now. On your actions, on your environment, on others around you. This takes practice but is essential.

3. Disconnect. Don’t always be connected. If you carry around an iPhone or Blackberry or other mobile device, shut it off. Better yet, learn to leave it behind when possible. If you work on a computer most of the day, have times when you disconnect so you can focus on other things. Being connected all the time means we’re subject to interruptions, we’re constantly stressed about information coming in, we are at the mercy of the demands of others. It’s hard to slow down when you’re always checking new messages coming in.

4. Focus on people. Too often we spend time with friends and family, or meet with colleagues, and we’re not really there with them. We talk to them but are distracted by devices. We are there, but our minds are on things we need to do. We listen, but we’re really thinking about ourselves and what we want to say. None of us are immune to this, but with conscious effort you can shut off the outside world and just be present with the person you’re with. This means that just a little time spent with your family and friends can go a long way — a much more effective use of your time, by the way. It means we really connect with people rather than just meeting with them.

5. Appreciate nature. Many of us are shut in our homes and offices and cars and trains most of the time, and rarely do we get the chance to go outside. And often even when people are outside, they’re talking on their cell phones. Instead, take the time to go outside and really observe nature, take a deep breath of fresh air, enjoy the serenity of water and greenery. Exercise outdoors when you can, or find other outdoor activities to enjoy such as nature walks, hiking, swimming, etc. Feel the sensations of water and wind and earth against your skin. Try to do this daily — by yourself or with loved ones.

6. Eat slower. Instead of cramming food down our throats as quickly as possible — leading to overeating and a lack of enjoyment of our food — learn to eat slowly. Be mindful of each bite. Appreciate the flavors and textures. Eating slowly has the double benefit of making you fuller on less food and making the food taste better. I suggest learning to eat more real food as well, with some great spices (instead of fat and salt and sugar and frying for flavor).

7. Drive slower. Speedy driving is a pretty prevalent habit in our fast-paced world, but it’s also responsible for a lot of traffic accidents, stress, and wasted fuel. Instead, make it a habit to slow down when you drive. Appreciate your surroundings. Make it a peaceful time to contemplate your life, and the things you’re passing. Driving will be more enjoyable, and much safer. You’ll use less fuel too.

8. Find pleasure in anything. This is related to being present, but taking it a step farther. Whatever you’re doing, be fully present … and also appreciate every aspect of it, and find the enjoyable aspects. For example, when washing dishes, instead of rushing through it as a boring chore to be finished quickly, really feel the sensations of the water, the suds, the dishes. It can really be an enjoyable task if you learn to see it that way. The same applies to other chores — washing the car, sweeping, dusting, laundry — and anything you do, actually. Life can be so much more enjoyable if you learn this simple habit.

9. Single-task. The opposite of multi-tasking. Focus on one thing at a time. When you feel the urge to switch to other tasks, pause, breathe, and pull yourself back. Read more.

10. Breathe. When you find yourself speeding up and stressing out, pause, and take a deep breath. Take a couple more. Really feel the air coming into your body, and feel the stress going out. By fully focusing on each breath, you bring yourself back to the present, and slow yourself down. It’s also nice to take a deep breath or two — do it now and see what I mean. :)

You can read more of this on
http://zenhabits.net/the-10-essential-rules-for-slowing-down-and-enjoying-life-more/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slow_Movement#cite_note-1

Tuesday 11 September 2012

Happiness & Spending Money - Link

I have started reading a book 59 Seconds by Professor Richard Wiseman, recommended by my mentor Narasimhan. There was an experiment done in US on what brings us happiness. I have quoted below a small snippet on scientific proof that our happiness increases when we help others.

Quoted Text Begin: 59 Seconds - Page 27 - 28
Neuroeconomist William Harbaugh and his colleagues from University of Oregon gave participants $100 in virtual bank account and asked them to lie down in brain scanner. Participants first saw some of their money being given to help those in need via mandatory taxation, and were then asked to decide whether to donate some of the remaining amount to charity or keep it for themselves.

The scanning results revealed that two revolutionarily regions deep in the brain - the caudate nucleus and the nucleus accumbens - became active when participants witnessed some of their money going to those in need, and were especially busy when they donated money voluntarily. These two brain regions also spring into action when our most basic needs are met, such as we eat tasty food or feel valued by others, suggesting a direct brain-based link between helping others and happiness.!!!!

Of course, you might argue that you really don't have enough money to donate to others. However, once again, help is at hand. A few years ago, happiness researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky and her colleagues arranged for a group of participants to perform five non-financial acts of kindness each week for six weeks. These were simple things, such as writing a thank-you note, giving blood or helping out a friend. Some of the participants performed one of the act each day, while others carried out all five on the same day. Those who performed their kind acts each day showed small increase in happiness. However, those who carried our all their acts of kindness in just one day each week increased their happiness by an incredible 40 percent!!!.
Quoted Text End: 59 Seconds - Page 27 - 28

It only proves that we are very happy when we help others!!!! (Financial or Non-Financial)

Sunday 9 September 2012

Root Cause of our Children's behaviour.

I read today elsewhere, that it is not through the grammar we teach a child its language. It learns by mimicking or by listening. My wife Sarsa gave her perspective that it is not just mimicking, but it is the observation of a child which gives the child the power to mimic, analyze, adapt & mold the behavior or pick up a new language or skill. So true.

We are just not aware how our child is observing us when he or she is young. We are not perceptive enough due to pressures of Life to realize that our child is drawing its conclusions on our behavior patterns. So our role as the first gurus to our child is very critical when bringing up the child by becoming aware that, we are indirectly molding the behavior of our children from the way we behave.

We as parents are primarily responsible for the way our children behave in society.